Saturday morning 6am, I was driving back from the airport
trying to decide whether to attend a men’s breakfast. When I have a decision to
make, I often set up a conversation between myself and “God”. The “God” side of
the discussion argues for what I think to be God’s position on the matter.
So brace yourself. You are about to get a glimpse into the
murky workings of my mind. I hope you are not of a nervous disposition! Here
goes:
“Why so grumpy?”
“I’m not.”
“Yes you are. Don’t think you can hide it from me.”
“Ok, so I’m looking grumpy. It’s because I have to go to the
men’s breakfast, and I don’t want to.”
“Why do you HAVE TO GO?”
“Erm... because I am the pastor...?”
“Is someone forcing you to go because you are the pastor?”
“No, nobody is forcing me to go. I just think I ought to go.”
“Wouldn’t it be better to go because you WANT to go?”
“Look, I don’t WANT to go OK!”
Silence...
“Ian.”
“Yes.”
“What if I told you that I want to refresh you at the Men’s
Breakfast?”
The thought that God might have plans to refresh me brought
tears to my eyes. My emotions, my spirit, my entire being said, “YES, Lord, I
want to be refreshed. I need to be refreshed”. And so I went to the meeting
because I wanted to. And I WAS refreshed!
But why is it that we so often go to or stay away from meetings
for the wrong reasons? Why do we go under a sense of obligation to God or people?
Why do we go just because we feel compelled to go? Do we feel compelled because
we want to earn the approval of God and others?
When Paul wrote to the Corinthians, asking them to take up a
collection for the poor in Jerusalem, he said:
Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not
reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor. 9:7).
I think we should apply this principle to other areas of our
lives. Imagine a church were everyone served with cheerful willingness and a
sense of God’s purpose in all they were doing. Yes, even in the matter of attending meetings,
we should go to God and ask Him to impress on our hearts what He wants us to
do, and then do it willingly and cheerfully. In this way, we will attend or miss
meetings or courses for the right reasons.
Sometimes, however, we miss for the wrong reasons. We throw
up barriers which prevent us from finding the good reasons FOR doing something.
For example, “I don’t do men’s meetings”. Such an axiom is usually established to cover
a deeper reason for not attending. It could be, “I am anxious that nobody will
talk to me.” Or perhaps, “I might be asked to share or pray out loud.” Are
these things really that terrible? Would it harm you if nobody talked to you?
It might be unpleasant, but if God shows you a compelling reason for attending surely
that would outweigh a little discomfort? And if you do not want to share or
pray, nobody can force you to. A polite, “I would rather not pray/share” would
suffice.
Another bad reason for missing is failure to consider
attending. Simple selfishness and lack of concern for the purposes of God often
cause me to overlook opportunities to bless or be blessed, to receive or to
contribute. Just because I feel a lack of conscience about missing something
doesn’t necessarily mean I am in the will of God. The important thing is to consciously
seek God and His purposes.
I hope this makes as much sense to you as it makes to me.
Let us make decisions with God’s help, and then we will DO and NOT DO things
for the right reasons. And when we do things we will do them willingly, joyfully
and with an awareness of God and His purposes.
Cheers for now - Ian